Some people feel that if a person is taking with word "We" he is good team player. Recently my analysis and research proved something else. It’s happened when I was conducting IV’s for new candidates. It’s quite interesting experience and eye opener observation.
I am not saying it’s bad but I found that people who take individual responsibility usually talk me, myself, I and mine. These people are good leaders and take things too personally. And that’s a mantra for success. I know there are lots of people who are not going to convinced with my thought so explaining certain artifacts.
Imagine Mahatma Gandhi think that it’s our country and we have to make our country independed. Then in this "Our"; who will take initiative... Just read “My Experiment with truth” and observe he mentioned that it’s my country and I am interested to understand the country first. It’s (My and I) not we/our...
Yes we are one country but at last it’s my country and I have to do something for my country... If I think that we have to do something then initiative will never begin. (Quite interesting)
Ratan Tata mentioned it’s my promise and promise is promise is promise to give 1L car to world.
If everyone thinks that it’s our then where is ownership and responsibility?
Take one more example; It’s our city and we have to keep it clean... Everyone thinks it; but at last we just crib that government and municipal are not keeping city clean... And again we keep on poring cigarettes buds, plastics and garbage on road... because it’s our city and not mine. (Observe that in this sentence I used We and somehow I am convinced that it’s not me who is making city dirty, But quite possible that several time I did same thing which I am explaining above)
Similarly I saw there are 4 guys staying together in one flat and their room/ flat is quite dirty.
I asked them whose flat is this.
Answer: Is ours,
Who cleans’ house?
Then why flat was so dirty?
Answer: Because XYZ did this and ABC is lazy he doesn’t contribute is cleaning.
I called up one responsible guy from this group and asked him just for one month think other three guys are guest and it’s your house... You have to keep it clean!!! (Initially it was quite difficult for me to convince him because his tough was if I start cleaning my own I would be labor and other will just watch him and not going to contribute.
He started a drive and as soon as he started a cleaning activity other three joined him; week after week this fellow start cleaning house on weekend and other three start helping him. Some by shame, some really wanted to help him and some thinking other should not criticize him.
So that’s a power of me and I/myself...
Not sure this article is enough to convince you to give respect to people who think I, Me are myself. They are initiators, innovators and leaders who give direction, path and way to move people who thing we...
Since from decade it’s a myth that people who use us in their communication are good team player. And 80% of people think that way. Which is vice versa? People are good for driving a accelerated project but not good as leaders.
I don’t know from where this myth was adopted by us but trying to figure out the origin and motive making this myth, truth. As soon as I will get some clue will update my blog.
Friends I am thinking to create a voice blog because not getting enough time to write articles... But most of the time Ideas are boggling in my mind and I am interested to keep it on record. What would you think?
Please post comment if like my Idea which is kind of encouragement for me to do things which I am doing.